We're empowering all 13-24 year old girls, young women, and non-binary people with knowledge and confidence to help their friends

Through the Your Best Friend project we’ll help each other understand young people’s relationships, what happens when they become unsafe and provide you and other young people with the knowledge and confidence to help yourself or your friends.
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Apply to the Your Best Friend Fund
Through the Your Best Friend Fund we are distributing £300,000 in grants to organisations and groups based in England and Wales to create their own ideas and projects that support Your Best Friend’s aims. We expect to give 30-40 small grants of £1,000 - £10,000 and 6-8 large grants between £10,000 and £25,000.

Please find out more and apply here.

To create the solution we need to understand how you talk to your friends about relationship concerns and what solutions you’d like to see. To do this we have run workshops, focus groups, interviews, and surveys. We are currently synthesising the rich insights from them all and will play them back to you soon.

Follow online at #WhatWillWork #YourBestFriend.

Interested in learning more about this project? Contact yourbestfriend@safelives.org.uk

Your Best Friend Themes

These themes emerged from listening to hundreds of girls, young women, and non-binary people. They are so important to understanding what young people witness their friends experiencing in all types of relationships, what stops young people recognising toxic behaviours, what assists and stops young people helping their best friends, and what would make friends intervene and seek professional advice. Over the next few months, we will be working with young people to produce ideas that help solve these problems.
Theme 1 - Immediate online pressure
Theme 2 - The commonness of control
Theme 3 - The power gap
Theme 4 - Blinded by the butterflies
Theme 9 - Feeling helpless
Theme 10 - Seeking support
Theme 11 - It's not normal the real impact
Theme 7 - The time to step in
Theme 5 - Opening their eyes
Theme 6 - Treading a fine line
Theme 8 - Easier said than done
Why we need to solve this!
Anyone can find themselves in a toxic relationship – no matter what their background is or where they live.

For so many reasons, it can be really hard to know what’s toxic and what’s not, especially if people tell you you’re wrong.

If you do know, it can be really hard to know what to do – for yourself or for a friend. And it's even harder talking about this stuff and getting help, especially if you don’t have the words to do it.

We need to make it easier to spot the signs, and know what to confidently do about it. Friends helping each other is so powerful.



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Your Best Friend will give you honest, practical information you can trust to keep your friends safe from toxic relationships, or get them to safety.


Working with 13-24 year old girls, young women and non-binary people, and experts, we'll give you and your friends what you need to be safe in relationships - this includes supporting at least 40 organisations to help you through financial grants and projects.

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What will Your Best Friend do?
Over the next 2 years, we'll put girls, young women, and non-binary people together with some of the country’s leading experts on safety from toxic relationships. We'll then go where you are, online and in real life, so we can get you the right information and be able to provide you with the support you need to help yourself or your friends.

At every step the whole project will be led by young people and their real experiences, hopes and dreams.
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How will Your Best Friend do it?
11 organisations are joining forces with girls, young women
and non binary people to give you the language and
information you need to:
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Doing this together means doing this better
Know what's ok
Know how to talk about it
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Know how to stay safe and find safety
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Protect your friends and yourself
Join us on this mission...
There are a number of things we'll do but two big things are listening to girls, young women, and non-binary people, and getting information out to wherever they spend their time (online or offline). If you want to be involved in either of those two things - add yourself to the list...
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We're teaming up to make this happen
SafeLives: Through the Your Best Friend project we want to empower young people with the knowledge, support and confidence to keep themselves and their friends safe.
Early relationships for young people can be a time of great risk and we know young people just want to talk to someone they trust, a friend, about what is happening.

Through the Your Best Friend project we want to empower young people who identify as girls and young women with the knowledge, support and confidence to keep themselves and their friends safe.
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Tilda Publishing
Galop is a part of the Your Best Friend Project because we want to empower all young people to better understand the needs of LGBT+ young people who are experiencing abuse.

We are proud to be a part of a project that is informed from the voices of young people and led by their perspectives. We believe that this work will help young people to respond to their LGBT+ friends in a way that feels okay for them.
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Tilda Publishing
Hafan Cymru is involved in Your Best Friend as we believe everyone has the right to:

- A life free from abuse
- Be able to access the right support at the right time
- Receive quality services enabling them to feel safe and empowering them
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Tilda Publishing
To support all young people find their voice, feel safe and be confident. Muslim Youth Helpline is involved in translating the needs of young Muslims into something practical and beneficial.
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Tilda Publishing
PODS joined the SafeLives partnership for the Your Best Friend project as we found young people are likely to seek advice from their friends before speaking to an adult about any difficulties they may be facing. We feel this project will help to bridge the gap between young people and services as they will develop a deeper understanding of support services available, as well as create their own help seeking resources.’
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Tilda Publishing
We are involved in YBF because we are deeply passionate about equipping BAME young people with the tools and confidence which will enhance and enrich their lives and the lives of those around them.
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Tilda Publishing
At Llamau we believe that no one should ever have to experience domestic abuse. We want to ensure that everyone feels safe and can live free from harm.

We believe the ‘Your Best Friend’ project will empower young people with the knowledge and confidence to keep themselves and their friends safe, which in turn will break the cycle of domestic abuse.

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Tilda Publishing
The Mix believes in a world in which every young person is heard and is supported to deal with the ups and downs of life, including their relationships. We know young women and girls often turn to their best friends for this support. Therefore, empowering young people with reliable, trustworthy information and signposting will help to break the cycle of domestic violence and toxic behaviour.

This important project will give young women and girls the resources they need to keep themselves and their friends safe.
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Tilda Publishing
We are journalists, technologists, digital storytellers and development practitioners. We work with marginalised communities to amplify their voices and share their insight.

We co-created drawtheline.uk when we discovered that young people are most likely to speak to friends if they are worried about harmful and toxic relationship behaviours.

We want to make sure that friends have the knowledge and confidence to identify toxic behaviour, and can help to navigate themselves and their friends to safety.

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Tilda Publishing
Healthy Relationship Education is a big part of our work at Project YANA, we are excited to be on board the YBF mission.
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Tilda Publishing
We know the power of people helping each other. Every young person deserves the support and answers to the very real problems they may be experiencing - either in their own relationships or their friends' relationships. We're so motivated to work with incredible organisations and young people to make this happen.
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Tilda Publishing
We want to thank the Department for Digital, Culture, Media & Sport - the 'Your Best Friend' project would not be possible without substantial funding from the Tampon Tax Fund.
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Join us on this mission...
There are a number of things we'll do but two big things are listening to girls, young women, and non-binary people, and getting information out to wherever they spend their time (online or offline). If you want to be involved in either of those two things - add yourself to the list...

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